I found a lot of pictures. But I'm going to talk about fear. Mostly fear that expectant parents have, girls have who are going through the adoption process, what birth moms fear after placement. I asked many birth moms what they feared and I can tell you that some of it was repetitive. So it's not just me that says these things. It's other girls. I wanted more opinions. I wanted adoptive families to realize that these girls are human-beings. We are not just "the birth mom." We are vulnerable. We get hurt. We have fears. Just like you.
Me:Did my birth mom ever get to hold me?
A Mom is someone who will put her children above everything.
A Mom sacrifices readily for her children despite her own happiness.
A Mom is not only a guidance but also a friend
A Mom is always there to listen to rants,woes & complaints….
A Mom is always forgiving despite being hurt
- Telling your story to others and having them misunderstand.
- Everyone believes you have mental issues and that's why you couldn't keep your child.
- That I'm just irresponsible and don't have the maturity to take care of my baby.
- Everyone will think I never wanted my baby or I took the "easy way out."
- Going back to old habits and my birth child hating me for not changing or being better for them.
- Your adoptive family won't tell your birth child who you are and you did everything out of love.
- Worry the adoptive parents will get a divorce.
- My birth child will think they were an accident or a mistake.
- They will hate hearing that they look like their birth parents.
- Worried how to tell the guys I'm dating that I've had a baby and placed the baby for adoption.
Actually who are we not to be?
You are a child of God.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
won’t feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest
And when we let our own light shine,
The memories of you are one of the strongest things I'll ever have.
Thank you for all the birth moms that helped: Meghan. Meagan. Jennilee. Mariel. Karissa. Deanna. Maggie. Jessalynn.