Day 5: Words of Advice

"Just a word of advice...your blog sometimes says too much. I don't think the adoptive parents of Oliva appreciate some of your posts, ones like this one. Also, your friend's family probably didn't appreciate you telling the world that their daughter committed suicide, and your friend probably didn't like knowing you told the whole world the things that happened in your friendship at the time you guys were fighting. In the future, you may want to think about others' feelings before you reveal things that are private or sensitive to them. It's your right to put out your private business in a blog, but you don't have a right to do that if you're putting other's private business out in the process. Talk about yourself, but leave out details that involve other people in your life that may not appreciate it. Also, if I was Tayler, I would be irrate you told all of your readers that your friend thinks he's ugly. Did you ever think that might be humiliating for him? Mature a little before you have a blog."
-Anonymous comment.

Dear Anonymous,

Words of advice: Your comment says a little bit too much.

Love,
The blogger who says too much.

I'm sorry blogging world that there was an actual maturity level before you can have a blog. I'm sure if you had to take a maturity test before you got a blog, I would fail, miserably. This blog post may seem immature. I just want to make some things clear for you, anonymous. This is just for you- because sometimes I tend to talk about personal things about people that I don't know that they might not appreciate. Right? About my own daughter's parents? About my best friend who passed away? My best friend's family? My own fiance?

I just like to go on and on about their personal life because I have nothing else better to do, huh? Seems like it doesn't it?

Anonymous, sadly. I can't call you anything else because you didn't even have the common courtesy to call me out with your actual name. You're a coward.

Have you ever thought that, maybe, somethings that happen affect my life? And sometimes those "things" are people?

Maybe some people aren't meant to be in our lives forever. Maybe some are just passing through to teach us a lesson.

What's the point of living this life alone? Or not having anyone in your life? You wouldn't learn anything or have any trials to overcome.

I hope you learn your lesson, anonymous.

Obviously, I affected your life somehow and offended you by my openness. Well, it sounds like to me that they only way you REALLY know me and can judge me is through my blog. Good for you and for getting to really know me as a person. You did some quite intense research.

I don't know what it is that I said that offended you, when it probably wasn't even directed towards you.

I'd just like to know anonymous, do you PERSONALLY know me to attack me? You can sit here and tell me that I should be more sensitive to the topics I write about others, were you even thinking about being sensitive to what you were writing to me? Once again, proving you're a hypocrite.

"Don't judge my journey until you've walked my path."

Just for you anonymous, I wanted to see how many people you think that I've been insensitive to, such as Jessica's family (The same friend that committed suicide. The same friend that I got in a fight with and posted over my blog but ended up deleting, you've obviously been a follower for a while if you saw that blog before I deleted it. The same friend that told me that my fiance was unattractive.)

Have you ever had a best friend that you've gotten in a fight with and maybe did some things or said some things that were really stupid? But they're still your best friend? Think about a time like that in your life and come back to me. Kthanks.

I also took the liberty of e-mailing Dustinn and Valery about what I've said my blog. If anything I've said that has bothered them- their response,

"Hey pretty lady,

To answer your question: no, you didn't hurt us at all. Honestly, blog posts, comments, etc. Don't ever worry me. Really what is important to me (important to us--speaking for Dustinn also) is our relationship with you. And we think things are good. (please tell us if you feel otherwise-- we're always here to talk.) In short, no, you did not hurt us and don't worry about it. Yes, we are super private people. It makes me laugh sometimes that we are so opposite in that way. I literally twist myself like a pretzel trying to write anything slightly personal on our blog. Haha. But you compliment me. I'm learning things from you. I love and adore you. I am proud Olivia has your genes. I think the future is very bright.

You are so respectful of privacy and so unconditionally loving."

Wait a second, I thought I was this deviant child that disrespects privacy and posts them and doesn't care about anyone's feelings because I'm heartless and unloving of others. Doesn't sound like that to me here.

Jessica's mom, Lisa, I have a GREAT deal of respect for her. Even though Jessica and I were close as best friends, Lisa has been through it ALL with her. Did you even think for one second that if I didn't feel like it was okay to post what I did, I wouldn't have?

Lisa replied,

"Hey Stef, I got your message and don't even worry about it. I read your blog and I am not offended at all. Don't people have anything better to do than criticize someone who is trying to grieve the best way she can? Hang in there! Come by and see me sometime."

Yeah, that REALLY sounds like someone to me that is SO offended by what I wrote about their daughter, which was true. I'm sorry anonymous, that you and I grieve differently.

If you're so upset about my openness anonymous, why do you even read it?

Ever heard of the first amendment? Pretty sure, I have my right to that. And I'm sorry that your opinion doesn't mean much to me. I'm going to continue as being open as I want to be. But good luck in your life and criticizing those that have done NOTHING to you, personally.

Until now. :)

Mature a little before you post a comment ;)

P.S. My fiance is the MOST attractive man in the world to me, and he knows that. So he's not irate or humiliated at all. I don't marry ugly people. :)