tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640786534203215797.post2209845041984104521..comments2023-10-11T08:41:39.055-07:00Comments on Stefanie Jinelle's Journey: 16. Hand In Hand.StefanieJinellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08501326936851342628noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640786534203215797.post-35346536252604080382010-11-16T15:45:21.156-08:002010-11-16T15:45:21.156-08:00I read both this and your pain post, and I have to...I read both this and your pain post, and I have to say, that it all makes sense. And your questions about changing things (on the pain post), and what not, I honestly wouldn't change a thing about placement, because I honestly don't think I would be married right now, and that he would be alive. I didn't know anything about raising a child, or the things they get, but the adoptive family did, because they had an older son, and because they were so persistent with my son's care, they saved his life. And besides, who to say that things would be better. Because we will never know. But I would definitely change how I handled it, and how I went about it, I would be more adament about what I wanted in our openness, and actually make an openness agreement, because I didn't feel it was necessary since they were friends of mine, but now I'm seeing that it was actually necessary, but that's for another post, lol ;)Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00414997139963447868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640786534203215797.post-13063284995420041802010-11-16T14:53:51.365-08:002010-11-16T14:53:51.365-08:00Stefanie, I'm so glad you re-posted about this...Stefanie, I'm so glad you re-posted about this! I so badly wanted to tell you that we (adoptive parents) do not pray for you to have pain. We DO pray for you to have peace. Everyday. Thinking about a birthmom praying for people to be infertile makes it sound even more absurd. It's easy to forget that it's satan's plan for us to be miserable living in this messed up world. Choose to be happy anyway.Mostly Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00035226546186681273noreply@blogger.com